Last Wednesday, Ben and I moved from the city of Hai Phong, where we were staying, to Hanoi. We were excited to come here to have a more fulfilling social life and already, things are improving in that department. Ben had a date on Thursday evening, though the woman hadn’t fully read Ben’s profile which indicated he was polyamorous, so the woman was very surprised when he mentioned me. They still had a good time, but one would hope that in the future, people would read profiles more carefully.
Yesterday Ben and I met a few people, who we had had interactions with online. First we met a married couple who are interested in soft swinging, meaning they want to start off by having sex in the same room as another couple having sex. They have never done anything with other people before so they were understandably nervous and unfortunately, the conversation felt very stilted. When we found out the man was a doctor, we started talking about medical system issues in several countries and that aided things, but Ben and I are unsure if they’re interested in us, though they did indicate they might want to meet next weekend. We have never done anything this formal before – in Toronto, due to having a sex club in my neighbourhood, it was easy for us to wander down the street and meet people to have sex with; in Vietnam, more effort must be put in. However, it’s difficult to know what the exact etiquette is. The couple expressed that they don’t like pushy people so obviously we don’t want to be pushy.
In the evening, we met a woman, who I will call Huong. Ben found her profile and when I looked at it, I could see exactly why he messaged her. She looked very contrary to most of the women we had met here and even contrary to most women we’ve met in many places. Like me, Huong’s very straightforward and enjoys talking openly about love, sex, and relationships. We were also impressed that she quoted Nietzsche in the first paragraph of her profile. Upon meeting her, we thought she was attractive. She then mentioned about how she and her boyfriend allow each other to do things outside the relationship, but they don’t talk about it. Also, Huong told us that the man expects her to change once they settle down, though she doesn’t want to settle down with him. This is occasionally a difficult situation for Ben and I because we tell each other everything and we like it when we meet people who tell their partner everything as well. It’s also hard for us to see relationships where one partner is expecting the other to change. That being said, we had excellent conversation with Huong and all of us expressed interest in meeting again. Ben and I know it will be difficult to meet someone like her again, so despite not being fans of her relationship with the guy, we still want to see her. Anyway, it was a good weekend and we look forward to more social interactions soon.
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